Most people live life according to what comes their way. They try to make the best out of what happens to show up in front of their face and don’t ask too many questions otherwise.
Then there are those of us that shape our world according to our own desires and dreams. We look deeper, askew the ego noise and take risks in creating a life that mirrors what we find inside; what our true will is urging us to do.
A significant difference between these two types of people is their willingness to step out of their comfort zones. The most cathartic changes happen when you challenge yourself and welcome any situation that will help your grow regardless of it’s perceived benefit.
Magic doesn’t happen in a box, so if you want your life to reflect the dreams you hold in your soul, you need to take the initiative to step outside whatever walls you’ve built for yourself.
Here’s a first person account of this.
Earlier this year, I watched both my ego and my business die at the same time. This was a painful yet necessary process that not many people are comfortable with. The rewards can outweigh the discomfort however, and I’m here to tell you that when huge transformations occur in your life (especially when you ask for them), you have to buckle down and go along for the ride if you will see true prosperity in life.
The fact that my business and my ego were linked is no surprise really. Anyone who has tried to build an online business in the past couple of years will recognize the obvious path most people take according to all the advice out there. Most businesses are built with egoic intentions, not that of the deepest soul stirrings and purpose. I realized I had built my business online according to the advice out there, and they were both bunk.
I was rolling along for a good two years knowing the type of clients I wanted to work with as a brand and web designer while simultaneously taking whatever work I could get as a WordPress developer. Because, ya know, money. This was working for a little while and even gaining momentum, then I decided it wasn’t quite right. I was spending my days not helping the people I feel truly passionate about and instead becoming yet another order-taker that exchanges their valuable time for money.
This was not the reason I went into business for myself. I didn’t get into this to become yet another faceless freelancer, I did this to build a livelihood where I collaborated with brilliant creatives doing amazing work. Together we would build a new vision for living that matched what was in our hearts, as corny as that sounds. We know the possibilities for a world that is shaped by our inherent talents and skills, but have been taught to view them as fantasies and idealism.
At a very powerful time astrologically, I set my intentions to have prosperity in everything I did. This means a lot of things to everyone. I’m not even sure I knew what it looked like to me. I just knew that my purpose on this earth was to attract like-minded, deep-thinking creatives that were working tirelessly to build a world we all know should exist.
As soon as I asked, I started receiving.
My romantic relationship, comfortable home life, and financial stability ended within days of setting this intention. I picked up my things and moved across the country to start anew in an inspiring and welcoming place. I had to come up with a shaky plan to keep myself going all of a sudden amidst an onslaught of change I could barely keep up with.
After landing in my new home, I assumed things would roll along like they had been before I started this huge transformation. But you know what assuming does. Like I said in the beginning, I watched as events caused both my ego and my business to die at the same time. I sent out proposals for projects that were sure to land jobs and…nothing. I looked for any kind of work in my field in a desperate attempt to keep some semblance of an income going.
Crickets. Nothing worked.
I had no choice but to watch it all die in a beautiful and chaotic flame. I now understand that this was all a necessary (and only the first step i.e. death ) part of the process.
Doing shadow work and seeking out deep wisdom has become the new norm for me. Every day brings new insight and guides into my life that I would have never accessed with my old method. I cleared away the disjointed clutter that was my old online presence and let a new brand and website be born out of me easier than any work I had ever produced.
My purpose becomes clearer every day as the people I wished and asked to work with are systematically finding me. We are having fantastic conversations and my work is starting to truly blend into myself. There is no difference between our livelihood, using what we are inherently good at to earn a living, and ourselves, the person that we build on a consistent basis to be a whole and healthy human.
Stepping outside your comfort zone isn’t something most people would do willingly, but those of us that jump off a cliff for the sake of our souls know how sweet and fulfilling the rewards can be.
We can’t know what we’re truly made of from the confines of our cozy little life. It takes wading around in your own muck to see what you’re really made of. Asking for understanding doesn’t mean it’s just going to pop into your head without doing the deep work. You have to live it and embody it in order for change to really happen.
Outside your comfort zone is where change will happen. If you are wanting things to be different and you’re still doing the same routine every day, it’s time to break out of that.
Change what isn’t serving you.
What do you find yourself complaining about or being frustrated with the most? Is it a relationship? Your job? The place you live? All of it?
The first step in this process is to check in with yourself. Have you REALLY listened to what your intuition is trying to tell you, or are you just making the best out of what comes your way? Sometimes a swift gut punch is what is needed to set your course on the right path. Whether meditation, solitude in nature or travel, find what works for you personally and connect with the deepest, truest part of yourself to find out what direction you really need to go in to fulfill your desires in this life. You only get one, so make it count.
Re-evaluate your reasons for being in the position you are. Can you make physical changes that will propel you in the direction you want to go? Manifest these changes, as difficult as they are, and keep the faith that your intuition will guide you in the right direction.
Jump off that cliff already. I’m not saying it will be easy, far from it, but if you build a solid core self that is loving and stable despite the winds of change, you’ll be better in the end for it!
Get away from a goal oriented mindset.
A diligent pursuit of one goal you made at one point in your life will only leave you feeling empty and unfulfilled because the goal is just a another step on your path. Life is what happens in between these big-picture moments you strive for. Learn to see and enjoy the beauty in the journey, not blindly pursue something that may or may not bring you closer to where you want to be. Surrendering to the beauty and perfection of the experience is the only way to let your intuition guide you. Slowing down and paying attention to the signs you’re given every day is how you will write your story.
You are more in tune with yourself than you think, and cutting away the conditioning that has us setting goals and achieving them with task lists need not be your top priority. Every moment is a perfect lesson and exactly where you need to be.
Magic doesn’t happen inside a box.
Think back to when you had a job and an employer. Many of us probably did our work inside a box of some sort. That could be a cubicle, a warehouse or a brick-and-mortar shop. You may even be reading this from one of these boxes. You probably daydreamed while you were there of being able to escape and free your mind from the endless list of tasks or even sheer boredom.
Something I see entrepreneurs doing when they work for themselves is they leave their employer’s box only to make their own unique box. Think your home office or workshop. You may toil away in this, your very own box, and think that it is perfectly fine and that’s what you were working towards the whole time. This may be your misguided idea of freedom.
I personally don’t have a set office for this reason. My creativity and inspiration are fed by not being surrounded by the same 4 walls everyday. In order to affect and work with all the energy that is out there, you have to, ya know, get out there. Make nature a priority, and switch up where and how you work every day if you can.
Open yourself to the flow of all things in your creative pursuits, and watch how you’re embraced and changed by your environment when things get switched up.
Let go and work the net available to you.
I absolutely loath the traditional idea of networking. You shouldn’t have to hang out in some stuffy room wearing nametags and a fake smile to connect with people who get you and want to collaborate with you. Nine times out of 10, the people you really want to meet aren’t at these events anyway.
Take a more organic approach by letting go and doing the things you LOVE to do and that really enrich you. Get out of the “business networking” mindset and actually have fun and enrich yourself. Attend inspiring and creative events, and start real conversations with the people involved. You’ll be surprised who comes to you when you open yourself up to this flow.
I’ve found that opening myself up to all the social possibilities available to me and making actual, genuine friendships is what propels my business forward in the right way. I attend art openings and any collective creative events and just start talking. This may have you breaking out in hives if you’re a staunch introvert, but practice is key.
The more you cultivate your confidence and share your gifts with people who are receptive to it, connections and collaborations are going to come effortlessly. This world needs the kind of work that only you can do, and you will discover the people that will benefit from it most will find you immensely valuable. They actually wonder where you’ve been all this time!
The prosperity you will see from these suggestions will not be seen overnight. In fact, you will probably not notice the impact because it will become part of your nature as your work goes on. This is what it feels like to be one of the people that cultivates a life, instead of just reacting to circumstances and doing the “best you can.” Being the former is definitely more rewarding.
So get out there already.
This article is the first in an installment of my own personal journey through pure and intentional livelihood building (the initial Death before regeneration can occur). Continue the journey with Seeing the Light: Transmute Raw Energy Into Your Great Work.